End of the Year Review: What 2020 Taught Me

Oh 2020, the year everyone loved to hate. There were so many ups and downs, untimely deaths whether pandemic related or not, a plethora of failures amongst other things. However, as I reflect on this past year, I realize that everything had to go wrong so I could get right. 

Letter to My 19 Year Old Self

Dear 19-year-old Jordyn, 

This year is going to be one of the worst years of your life. You will experience hardship like never before, lose friends, fight for peace, and fight with loneliness. 

Transparent Tuesday: I love others so much but why don't I feel loved back?

Have you ever been in love and someone doesn't love you back or in the same capacity? Or have you ever loved someone who wasn't ready to love you the way you should be loved? Okay let me stop, before this turns into a Brandy ballad lol. I've felt like this most of my life and I even currently feel like this. 

Why I Have Been M.I.A. For Five Months

"What happened to your blog?" "Why haven't you been posting?" "When are you going to update your blog?"

Short answer: I have writers block. 

Long answer: I don't know how to write while I'm happy because most of my writing is a created from my trauma and I heal through my writing. 

Baptist Girl Series: A Style Series on a Budget

Last week, I attended the Baptist General State Congress of Christian Education of Illinois. The week was filled with education, church services, fellowship, evangelizing, etc. The dress code for this annual Congress of Christian Education is church attire; and, while some might find the dress code restricting, I find that I dress the best during this one week than I dress the other 51 weeks of the year. I was very fortunate and blessed to buy new clothing for the week but I also had a budget. 

The One Bible Verse that Helped Me Get Over a Bad Breakup

Recently, I experienced a horrible breakup. I ended not only a romantic relationship but a friendship all in one. While I won't get into incredible detail, the reason for the breakup was something that I never thought I would experience or something that never even crossed my mind. If I could put it into words it was an unfathomable nightmare. However, I know that I had to go through this breakup for a reason other than just letting this relationship go. I had to go through this so I can refocus myself on God and my purpose.

The Hypersexuality and Misogynoir that Black Women Experience: an Independent Study by Jordyn Lofton

I walked into my Rhetorical Theory class on a Tuesday afternoon and was eager for the lecture, as this course would help me decide my intended major. I sat next to my friend and he looked at my attire, was shocked, and he leans over and says to me, “You know people are going to think you’re f*cking a football player because of what you’re wearing.” I frowned and looked down at the oversized sweatshirt adorned with a spider, my university’s mascot, and the word ‘football’. I mentally facepalmed myself and realized that he was right. People ARE going to think I f*cked a football player. After I left the class, I can sense the eyes on me as I walked around campus. I just knew that people were judging me and making presumptions about me that weren’t true. Being the black woman rhetor that I am, I decided to analyze this and ask myself some questions.